Comparison Gremlins And Keeping Up With The Jones’

Listen for these gems of wisdom and guidance:

-The pain of comparison

-The role social media plays

-Living as a human doing vs human being

-The richness of your interior landscape and why interior work is paramount

-How we find ourselves looking for external validation of our worth

-Giving yourself permission to explore the messiness of emotions

-The roles gender plays in comparison

-The toxic culture’s role in our ability to ‘do the work’

-What we need in order to do the work

-What it takes to be vulnerable with our messy human-ness

-The illusion of perfection and what it is doing to people

-What happens when we simply bear witness, without judgment, to the struggles of others….and our own

-Why ‘being a fraud’ is actually authenticity.

CONNECT WITH CARLA

Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly with too much stress.

Website – CarlaRoyal.com

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CONNECT WITH JENNIFER

Jennifer is an intuitive business strategist working with spiritually-minded business owners to help them create a scalable business that acts as a container for their soul’s purpose.

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Website – TheBalanceMaven.com

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Facebook – TheBalanceMaven

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If you love The Riffing on Realness Podcast, rate the podcast and/or write us a review! 

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Stealing Normal

Listen for these gold nuggets:

-The gifts of chaos

-Why interruptions are the way of life and change is the only universal constant

-How we can ‘begin again’ when we lose track of our equilibrium

-Why adapting is important and how to re-establish our own normal

-Internal vs eternal vehicles and how they impact our ability to maintain normal

-The difference between intention and attention and why they are both important and necessary

-Evolving normals

-Waking up to what you no longer want to tolerate….’The Great Resignation’

-‘Micro normals’ vs  ‘macro normals’ and why they are so important

-How our system is always seeking equilibrium and simply needs a little TLC from us

-Shame spiraling and beating ourselves up for taking downtime and a reframe to stop the story

-Knowing when you are intentionally decompressing vs escaping with Netflix

-Stepping out of judgment of self and others

-Why as we look to find our normal….we must be mindful of ‘helping’ others

-Being purposeful in cultivating the life we most want to live

-Why being ‘wobbly’ is actually an indication that positive change is occurring

CONNECT WITH CARLA

Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly with too much stress.

Website – CarlaRoyal.com

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CONNECT WITH JENNIFER

Jennifer is an intuitive business strategist working with spiritually-minded business owners to help them create a scalable business that acts as a container for their souls purpose.

Stop by and get a bit of inspiration and guidance with our online oracle deck- Subscribe

Website – TheBalanceMaven.com

Instagram- TheBalanceMaven

Facebook – TheBalanceMaven

CONNECT WITH US!

If you love The Riffing on Realness Podcast, rate the podcast and/or write us a review! 

You can do that HERE ! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on new episodes dropping every week. And don’t forget to share it with your friends!

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Balance, Is it Really What We are all Looking For?

Tune in to hear more about:

-We will ALL have imbalance in our lives

-We often learn through imbalance or contrast

-Balance is not what we think it is…listen for how we re-define it

-How priorities are the crux of balance

-Why failures are our greatest gifts and teachers

-Balance today can look very different today from Balance tomorrow

-Understanding what -‘Doing your best’ REALLY means

-Why time off is actually the key to doing more and having more

-Recognizing the ever-changing landscape of life and cultivating flexibility

-Exploring how slowing down leads to speeding up

-Guts and Glory in a fast paced world…how naps are the key

-Where the wisdom exists…in the pause

-Looking at your expectations and the permission to change them

-How to master your productivity

-Hello culture shift

-Finding YOUR ’normal’… and ultimately finding your fulfillment

-Why sometimes you need to shift your fulcrum point over striving for equal ‘balance’

CONNECT WITH CARLA

Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly with too much stress.

Website – CarlaRoyal.com

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CONNECT WITH JENNIFER

Jennifer is an intuitive business strategist working with spiritually-minded business owners to help them create a scalable business that acts as a container for their souls purpose.

Stop by and get a bit of inspiration and guidance with our online oracle deck- Subscribe

Website – TheBalanceMaven.com

Instagram- TheBalanceMaven

Facebook – TheBalanceMaven

CONNECT WITH US!

If you love The Riffing on Realness Podcast, rate the podcast and/or write us a review! 

You can do that HERE ! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on new episodes dropping every week. And don’t forget to share it with your friends!

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Limbo, Impermanence and Uncertainty,… Oh my! (Swearing alert)

Some highlights worth listening for:

-perfectionism and the role it plays in making limbo harder

-Are you holding on too tightly to the wrong things for stability during these times?

-How to let go of the white knuckling and see it as a gift and use its ‘intelligence’

-Channeling your inner ‘Dorothy’ and following the yellow brick road…

-Where we tend to skip steps and ‘escape’ from solving issues

-Feeling the feels and why it is key

-Why Limbo et al is a part of life and not the interruption we perceive it to be

-The paradoxes of rigidity…the blessing and the curse

-How to cultivate flexibility and resilience

-Getting into the box and how it actually helps us break free

-Looking for the lessons to move forward faster

CONNECT WITH CARLA

Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly with too much stress.

Website – CarlaRoyal.com

Facebook – Carla Royal Coach

Linkedin – Carla Royal

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CONNECT WITH JENNIFER

Jennifer is an intuitive business strategist working with spiritually-minded business owners to help them create a scalable business that acts as a container for their souls purpose.

Stop by and get a bit of inspiration and guidance with our online oracle deck- Subscribe

Website – TheBalanceMaven.com

Instagram- TheBalanceMaven

Facebook – TheBalanceMaven

CONNECT WITH US!

If you love The Riffing on Realness Podcast, rate the podcast and/or write us a review! 

You can do that HERE ! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on new episodes dropping every week. And don’t forget to share it with your friends!

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Finally, are there topics you’d like us to cover? Please let us know.

Getting Real Around Emotions

Here’s what we explored:

  • Feeling all kinds of emotions at the same time and how that doesn’t need to be a problem
  • We can feel curious and terrified, happy and sad
  • simply feeling emotions rather than analysing and judging them, enables them to flow more freely
  • when we get stuck, is when we get overly attached to the meaning we’re making of how we’re feeling
  • we have an incredible capacity to simply feel our emotions
  • we get in trouble when we split off from that and go into analysis
  • there’s intelligence in our emotions, not meaning but intelligence
  • in deep grief there is love
  • in every emotion, at root, there is love
  • as we get more of a sense of our deeper essence, we get kinder towards our experience
  • what can stop us wanting to feel, is fearing losing control
  • more and more places where we are trying to hold on become visible
  • control dropping away is something Juliet fears and longs for all at the same time
  • just out of sight, is a huge expanse of love
  • control is all about fear and trying to keep the separate self, safe
  • control gives us an illusion of safety but actually holds us prisoner
  • hyper-analysis and judgment of our experience/how we feel can cause a whole lot of suffering
  • and yet, we can be kind there too
  • we’re noticing we can show up, feeling vulnerable and just see what happens, there’s nothing on it
  • there’s a gentleness available as we understand the nature of our experience deeper and deeper
  • when we don’t know, it can be a really fertile space if we can just rest there and not be freaked out by it
  • when we find ourselves in a situation when we can see you have no control it can be a reckoning, a kind of fork in the road. Can we surrender?
  • it causes a lot of stain on our system to try and hold on to control
  • there’s a lot of freedom in being able to have emotions and let them move through you freely
  • the nature of the human experience is ebb and flow: control and surrender; being in your heart or your head; fear and love
  • the storm always runs out of rain, even when we feel off centre, we can know we’ll come back
  • the awareness of something deeper begins to come more and more into the foreground
  • our emotions are simply inviting us to get present, to come into the present moment and experience them
  • Thank you for taking the time to listen. If you enjoy this podcast please share on your social networks and write a review to help others find it. We’re taking a break over the Summer so wherever you are, go well and look after each other.

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Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly with anxiety.

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Poet & 3 Principles facilitator, Juliet loves exploring and pointing towards freedom of mind for those curious to engage more fully with all aspects of their life. 

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CONNECT WITH US!

If you love The Riffing on Realness Podcast, rate the podcast and/or write us a review! 

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Helping Others and Why It’s Tricky

Here’s what we explored:

  • when we listen for our own wisdom around problems, we get helpful fresh ideas that may include asking someone for help
  • if we identify help we need and then ask, that feels different from having others telling us what to do when we haven’t asked
  • ask how you can help. Don’t make assumptions about what someone wants and needs
  • we want our own capacity for returning to well-being to be recognised when people offer help
  • we also assume people can’t handle feeling distress
  • we can become frightened by others’ distress
  • often, without awareness, the reason we want others to feel better is because we need them to feel better so we can feel better
  • when we catch sight of this, we realise it is all about us!
  • do we really see, we are okay at a deeper essential level (and so is everyone else)?
  • Carla talks about when she had her breakdown-breakthrough, how her wisdom told her to let herself completely unravel, and then when everything was stripped back she felt her deeper essence
  • what people crave is a grounded presence
  • when our sense of ourselves gets interrupted, we may attempt to patch ourselves up and try to carry on as before
  • there is a terror of falling apart
  • being present with ourselves is an extraordinary gift
  • when we speak to someone as if they are whole, not broken, without judgment, we invite the other to find that place in themselves
  • ‘Why’ questions don’t usually give a satisfying answer – ‘why am I feeling this way?’
  • as we deeply realise we are more than our feelings, we get to take how we feel less seriously
  • there is an intelligence in our inner experience (all of it), you begin to get eyes for the wisdom of the moment – it’s alive
  • the difference between feeling our emotions and collapsing into our emotions
  • if we don’t reflect on why we want to help and ask others what help they want (if they know), then we’re not really being helpful
  • often we grab hold of the story because it’s a diversion, something to do.
  • it looks like it’s empathetic but it moves the focus away from the present
  • the point of lightening up is, not only do we feel better, we are more resourced to hear and act on our wisdom
  • often, our head is disconnected from our hearts
  • as we get more sense of a deeper dimension we get kinder towards our psychological experience
  • we don’t take how we feel so personally
  • when are low, we are usually living in the past and when we are feeling anxious often we are living in the future
  • coming back into the present can help us find equilibrium
  • as we wake up to the wild ways our dramatic brains go on, we get to take it less seriously
  • if you catch yourself trying to fix others, it’s a good place to sit and reflect on how much you can get present with your own distress
  • we’re human, we fall into our old tracks of thought but as we catch sight more and more of what’s going on, there’s a softening
  • we begin to see our ridiculousness with love and humour rather than judgement
  • being okay with whatever our experience is means we get to be okay with others, whatever experience they are having
  • the space of not knowing is fertile ground and we begin to get curious rather than fearful when we don’t know
  • come alongside others in support but without making demands
  • don’t underestimate the power of warmth and connection and being fully present with someone in distress

Quotes and References

  • webinar: Mavis Karn and Grace Kelly, Essential Selfishness
  • René Descartes, “I think therefore I am”

Thank you for listening, be sure to subscribe and share with friends.

CONNECT WITH CARLA

Carla is a mindset & performance coach working with high-achieving, high-performance entrepreneurs who are dealing quietly with anxiety.

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CONNECT WITH JULIET

Poet & 3 Principles facilitator, Juliet loves exploring and pointing towards freedom of mind for those curious to engage more fully with all aspects of their life. 

Sign up for her latest insights, essays, poems, and inspirational programmes direct to your inbox – Subscribe

Website – Solcare

Instagram- Juliet Faye

Facebook – Solcare

CONNECT WITH US!

If you love The Riffing on Realness Podcast, rate the podcast and/or write us a review! 

You can do that HERE ! Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE so you don’t miss out on new episodes dropping every week. And don’t forget to share it with your friends!

Thank you for listening and being a part of this community! It means a lot to us!

Finally, are there topics you’d like us to cover? Please let us know.