~ remain poised uncertainly in one place or between two states ~
© Juliet Fay 2018
For there, just out of sight, is a space where we don’t need to hold things so tightly. Where there is nowhere to fall but into grace.
Where stories of self and others flutter like Autumn leaves, falling, falling to gently decompose as winter turns to Spring and emerge, transformed.
New shoots from the cold hard earth.
And in this ebb and flow of birth and death, of joy and sorrow, we hear another drum beat.
The deep longing expressing itself in sighs and belly laughs.
The longing to turn away from poring over the flotsam and jetsam on the shores of our awareness.
To wade out beyond our depth and dive into the ocean, down, down to the unexplored territory far below the pull of neap and spring tides.
And as we fall into that deep rest, life rises up, greets us and washes us back upon the shore.
To once again sigh and laugh
Rise and fall
Leave go and let this making and unmaking of Life unfold.
Do you believe everything you think?
Most of us don’t.
We don’t believe when it has rained for 6 days solid that the sun will never come out again (though that thought crosses our mind).
We don’t believe life is unremittingly bad though it can look like that when we are in a low mood.
What if you don’t have to believe anything you think? What if it is all made up? Simply thought energy passing through us?
Hang on a minute, I hear you say.
Well if you can disregard some thoughts and not others, what makes the difference? How do you choose which ones you pay attention to, which ones you give weight to?
Scientific evidence, facts, validation from others?
You only have to scratch a little deeper to find it’s entirely random. The difference comes simply from what state of mind we are in.
In a high state of mind (or expanded consciousness) the thoughts we believe and therefore our experience of the world, is entirely different to the thoughts we believe to be true and therefore our experience of the world in a low state of mind. In a high state of mind we experience love, joy, wisdom, well-being, lightheartedness and peace. In a low state we experience fear, lack, scarcity and distress.
What does this tell us?
It is our state of mind that creates our experience.
The innocent misunderstanding is that circumstances, our genes, our wiring, our past, our hormones or anything other than the thinking in each moment that we believe to be true, creates our experience. That misunderstanding is the biggest cause of mental distress because we take our thoughts at face value. We believe they tell us something about ourselves, other people or our world.
But that’s not how it works.
Our state of mind ebbs and flows and therefore so does our experience of ourselves, others and our world.
The thing that is constant is our innate, essential, well-being. We may lose sight of it but we all have, at our core, innate wisdom, well-being, creativity and resilience.
Our shifting moods tell us ever-changing stories about ourselves, the world and other people.
These are made up. Insubstantial. Illusory. Only they don’t look that way. They look real.
It is expanded consciousness that shifts our experience.
How do you get expanded consciousness?
It happens naturally when we get quiet and still and tune in to something bigger than ourselves. To the universal energy we call life or spirit or Mind (as expressed by Sydney Banks).
The good news is, as our consciousness expands our feeling states continue to fluctuate, ebb and flow but they do so from a different base line.
The even better news is that there is nothing to do other than settle down. There’s nothing to get, achieve, tick off or even aspire to. There is only doing and being.
There aren’t even any states of mind that are inherently negative. We only judge them to be so. We can experience distress from a place of expanded consciousness and experience it as the dreamer watches what is unfolding in the dream. Engaged but not attached to any particular outcome.
Thus we can get curious about these feeling states we get to experience with this whole being human thing. With nothing on it, there is no longer the need to chase away so-called ‘bad feelings’ nor try to cling on to so-called ‘good feelings’. Knowing that feelings ebb and flow we can turn away from thinking about how we are feeling and allow instead thoughts and feelings to flow through us. Casting our attention away from stale old ones and towards fresh new inspiration that is always available to us, in each and every moment. This allows us to engage in doing and being with wonder, awe and appreciation.
When you realise you are not what you think, nor does what you think say anything about yourself, the world or other people you can surrender to Universal Mind and to life flowing through you. When life flows through you uninhibited, your experience of this whole being human thing, transforms as more and more appreciation leads to more and more allowing for love, joy and peace to show up in your life and the lives of those around you.
Why isn’t this common knowledge?
You might well ask. For once you realise your experience of life is created by the thinking you believe to be real, your whole relationship to your thinking begins to change. The good news is, this understanding is being shared across the world and more and more of those impacted by seeing the reality of how our human experience gets created are bringing about change directly or indirectly, in their families, communities and work places. Change is coming.
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© Juliet Fay 2017
Juliet Fay is a writer, poet, Marketing Geek and Three Principles Facilitator based in West Wales sharing The Three Principles as first articulated by Sydney Banks. Contact Juliet via the Solcare website. For articles, occasional poems, book reviews and programme news from Solcare, sign up to the e-mailing list here. To learn more about the Three Principles ask to join Love Your Life Again, a Facebook group hosted by Juliet Fay of Solcare, for individuals, social care workers and social entrepreneurs looking for more ease and flow.
During my years in organic vegetable farming I saw how a naturally fertile soil can produce naturally healthy crops by harnessing nature’s own systems.
For instance, farmers have known, probably since Egyptian times, that rotating crops and planting legumes like peas, lentils and clovers are good for soil fertility. Fertile soils produce strong new shoots, less likely to be affected by pest and diseases. There is good science to back up this age old practice.
It struck me today that our minds work in a similar way. We often talk of people having a ‘fertile imagination’ if they come up with particularly creative or fantastic ideas.
And what defines a creative idea?
Usually it is something new, fresh, unseen, untested.
Where does it come from?
It can only come from a universal intelligence behind life. Where else could it possible come from? So why do some people find life a journey of discovery and others are prisoners of their thoughts?
It seems to me, the answer lies in the state of the space where thoughts arise.
In our minds.
When this space, our mind, is congested with stale old thoughts, it feels exhausted and clogged up. The stale old thoughts churn up and rather than paying attention to our state of mind, we try and fix those thoughts by changing things in our world, like our job, our partners or our diet.
Much in the same way a conventional farmer might reach for fertilizer, weedkiller or insecticide to try and buck up sad looking plants. In both cases it doesn’t fix the underlying issue.
The stirred up mind like the depleted soil, is not in good heart.
On the other hand when we allow our mind to do what it naturally wants to do, which is to settle down and get quiet and still, in my experience, love and appreciation naturally arise, if we allow those feelings to come.
How do you get your mind to settle down?
As soon as it occurs to you to let your mind settle, it will. In my groups I take a water bottle with sand in the bottom, shake it up and we all watch the sand slowly sink to the bottom. It takes a few seconds. It’s not the bottle of sand making us settle down; it’s just a reminder how quickly the mind can and will settle if we let it.
Like organic farmers, who understand that feeding the soil, produces new, healthy crops. So too, if we understand how settling down, nurtures the mind, nurtures the space where thoughts arise, allows it to fill with love and appreciation, then we too can experience fresh, beautiful new ‘shoots’ of ideas and a ‘healthier’ experience of our world.
And who wouldn’t want that?